People who don't have any type of disease or illness don't seem to understand that when someone does have a disease or illness their life is never going to be "Normal" again...and even if they live with someone who has a disease or illness unless that person has it themselves they as well do not get what the word "Normal" means to us.
Normal living BC, was I think in my opinion a lot easier than it is now I could do so many things and while doing them or after being done with them didn't cause me any problems, going for walks with the dogs around the block, going up steps, parking in the back of the parking lot and walking to the store and then all through the store, picking up items around the house, carrying laundry, doing dishes, working in the garden, unpacking the car after going shopping...these are just some of the things that change for some people when they get Cancer or any disease that slows them down, they can and do get back up to speed but their life is never the same "Normal" that it was before, they get tired out more easily, and if their just starting chemo or if they are already way into the treatment or if they are just finishing the treatment they have a long road ahead of them to "Normal", this I know from experience I was well on my way back to "normal" when i got hit with a brick that the fluid to make the tumors was present I had surgery again to have a mediport put in and now I go to the Dr. every 2 months, I go for a port flush every month and during the same week i see the dr. i go in for bloodwork 2 days before. when i am at home it is a struggle to go up the steps, its a struggle to keep up with the laundry, house work, the cleaning of the flower beds. etc.....And I am reminded every day that I have cancer i just have to look down on my left breast and there it is the port. I don't even have to look down when i rub my breast or do my breast exam for breast cancer i feel the port..But with all the negative in my life I for myself try to make Living my life as normal as possible I just take my time doing what i have to do and i rest or nap when i am tired....When I go to the Store I park in the handicapped spot for I have a Handicapped plaque, otherwise I am out of breathe before I even get to the door, I have a hard time holding things and when i'm lucky enough not to break a dish (because it slipped out of my hands), or drop a bottle, or when I am able to type on the computer that is when I really love my life
and when i get the energy i do take the dogs for a walk around the block...or maybe its that they take me for a walk around the block I love my life then too.
About Me
- terry
- Euclid, Ohio, United States
- My name is Terry I am a stage 3C OC survivor aside from having other blog posts I wanted to add the Military Families in Ohio becuase I also have a son in the Army and I want to Invite other Military Families in Ohio to join me on this blog and share your experiences with me and the other families in hopes that we can support each other.
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Hi Terry, My name is Linda, and I fully understand and support how you feel. I was diagnosed in June of this year with stage 4 breast cancer. My daughter really doesn't want to talk about it much and my husband,well,we have had problems for 4 years,being married 5 years..He believes in God,for healing but, because I am "so close to him" he can't except it. He says he wants to do things together for the memories because he doesn"t know how long I'll live, I said,"thanks a bunch!!!"So,,I am so happy that you and your boyfriend have such a positive attitude towards life and that you share so much. God Bless you both!!!
Hi Linda, Thank you for sharing with me, the only thing i can say is that as long as you accept who you are and what you have eventually everything else will fall into place (maybe not for some time) but it will. My B/F and I have been together for 16 years he has MD he's had that since he was 14 he is now 47, so I was with him while he was in his own remission and to be honest I didn't really fully accept his condition until I got my own. I still have a hard time accepting my own but i look at it as I have it it isn't going anywhere and as long as I keep a Positive attitude with it everything will be fine....
I've started a few other posts check them out and see if your interested in commenting on them as well and good luck
your always in my prayers and thoughts.
Terry
Terry, positive attitude is so important! Attitude is key to the healing process. Have you tried any holistic treatments, and not just for the physical side of cancer, but things like EFT, mirror affirmations, etc.? I know it's helped me, and during some of this work, I've literally seen my tumors shrink. I understand whtat it's like to constantly be reminded of the cancer. I don't have a port, b/c I chose not to do chemo/radiation, but my tumors are visible, so I see them all the time. It's a process, but believing in yourself is incredibly important. I enjoy reading your love lists on CSL! :)
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